Question:
My guy is a serial cheater. i have forgiven him over and over again during the two years we have been dating but he just ahead and does the same thing, until i find out, then the cycle repeats itself. He apologises, and promises never to cheat again. Apart from this major problem he’s an ideal boyfriend and has even talked about getting married in a couple of years. I am 25 and he’s 28. What should i do?
Mr. Drag Answers:
Is the importance of getting married clouding your judgement? You sound like you don’t want to forgive him as often as you do, so why do you continue forgiving him if you keep catching him at the same thing so many times?
Is it possible that his cheating doesn’t affect your emotions as much as it may seem, but you may feel a need to count it as a problem because others say it is? Otherwise it seems you have a very high tolerance for hurt and that can’t be good for you.
How many times do you have to catch him to realize he won’t stop cheating on you anytime soon?
What’s your definition of an ideal boyfriend? I thought one of the criteria was to take best care of your emotions. I think Mr Ideal Boyfriend got you by the collar because he is able to provide trips that you so much desire. He must be wining and dining and servicing you to your satisfaction. To the point you almost don’t mind that he has other women. Get honest about it! If you don’t like it, why not do something about it? Otherwise stop complaining and enjoy what you’re already have in him being your Ideal Boyfriend, but do bear in mind a few facts.
1. Are you certain he only discusses getting married with you and none of his other relationships?
2. Has he given you any indication of his preferred marriage age or what he feels he needs to achieve in order to be ready to attain marriage readiness?
3. Would you be just as happy with a cheating husband?
